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A Few Unforgettable Tips on Memory

A Few Unforgettable Tips on Memory

Thursday, July 3, 2014

Dear Dan,

A few days ago I got out of a meeting and couldn't find my car keys. I suddenly realized that I must have left the keys in the ignition. I forgetfully do that from time to time, and my husband scolds me for it. Frantic, I headed for the parking garage, only to discover that the car was gone. I immediately called the police. I later called my husband and told him, "I left the keys in the car, and it's been stolen." There was a moment of silence. He said, "Are you kidding me? I dropped you off!" Embarrassed, I said, "Can you come and get me?" And his response was, "I'll be there as soon as I convince this cop that I didn't steal your car."

Should I expect more moments like this as I start to pass into my golden years? Any advice on how to make it less painful?

—Pat

Memory is a gift that we don't sufficiently appreciate until we start losing it. But appreciating memory isn't helpful in figuring out what you can do to decrease memory loss.

The best tools are habit and repeated behavior. You may no longer be able to remember easily where you left your glasses or book the last time you used them, but if you always try to put them in the same place, the odds are higher that you will find them. Rehearsal is also useful: Repeating things multiple times helps to transfer them from short-term to long-term memory (with the risk of looking crazy if people see you talking to yourself). Another tool is to take notes that will bypass the need to rely on memory (aside from remembering to look at your note pad). A modern version of such notes is to use your phone to take pictures, which come with even more context around the item you are trying to remember.

Your story is highly amusing, so perhaps you can also try to see the funny side of these senior moments. In fact, if you can make a point of sharing them with your friends and family, you will benefit from remembering those happy moments, too.

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